When I started writing this post I had no idea of what I would say, or for that matter, quite how I could resist the constant bombardment of “you wrong” messages without giving attention to them. It was quite a revelation to get an answer.
POST #7
HOW TO MAKE CHANGES WITHOUT FIGHTING?
I’m a movie lover. I especially like blockbuster movies and this season has been pretty damn great so far, and there’s still the last installment of Harry Potter to go. So excited. But I digress.
I went and saw Transformers 3 the other day and although it’s just the sort of trashy movie that I usually really enjoy it left a rather nasty taste in my mouth. Don’t get me wrong I enjoyed the movie. It was the female characters that bothered me. And the way the main character interacted with them which was, at different times, patronising and obnoxious. I gather that this was the intention of the movies makers and that makes me kind of sad.
The female lead, Sam’s girlfriend, was this beautiful, sexy woman. She’s also portrayed as a successful woman; she’s paying for the lifestyle that she and Sam are living, she’s been headhunted from her job at the embassy to manage a gallery, at which she’s then succeeded fantastically. But the whole time the only thing she does is stand around and look hot. And the men in her life treat her as she’s portrayed; a body. And she gives every impression of finding that quite acceptable.
This is the sort of insidious message that we’re constantly bombarded with. Be as successful as you want, but make sure you look sexy as hell while you’re doing it, because at the end of the day, that’s what’s important. In return men will take care of you and give you expensive stuff.
That is so much bullshit. And I feel frustrated that these messages are being fed to us and in a lot of cases accepted as normal by both men and women.
It’s the same with messages about our body. They are numerous – ranging from subtle presentations of what happens to thin women to blatant ‘fatties are bad and unhealty’ – and deeply insidious. They’re on television, in the movies, on the radio, in the magazines we read and the images that appear all around us. They’ve becomes so deeply embedded in our culture that its now considered fact.
How do you fight that? Particularly when you view it through the premise of law of attraction. What you focus on you draw into you life. I don’t want to draw this into my life. Quite the opposite in fact. I’d like to do what I could to erase those messages from the world.
So how do you fight something without giving any attention to it?
Create balance. Create counter messages. Create counter images; images that show people of all different shapes and sizes living their lives. Spread messages that counteract those other messages.
These counter messages are really out there, in varying degrees. I just need to look for them. So I think that’s what I’m going to do.
Lisa
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